Children are really impressionable, and this is the reason it is important that they are disciplined and mentored in the right ways from the very beginning. The earlier you start, the better chances you have of channeling their personality and behavior in the right direction. With his brain developing and adapting to all the new things he is becoming exposed to, the duty then falls on you to ensure that he has the habits that will lead him to become responsible and good human beings. The best way to make that happen is to start by teaching them the manners needed for the rightful change. They will serve as the foundation for all the other good things you would want to introduce them too.
1. Start small
They are kids afterall who do not have the mental capacity of an adult. Try to be patient with them as it is not possible to bring the change overnight. Start by taking the smaller steps and encouraging them along the way so that they are motivated enough to follow your lead. If you want to accomplish all the things in one day than you have some thinking to do on your own. Set realistic and doable goals for yourself and the kids as well. Teach them things they can do and understand as kids like staying clean, brushing teeth before going to bed, taking care of personal hygiene and many such small acts. It is only then that you both would enjoy things together and not feel the pressure of it.
2. They do what they see
If you think that just by telling them to do something will get it done, then you are wrong. Kids are more prone to doing things they see you doing than the ones they are told to. Give them the respect they deserve and be the change you want to see. If you want them to leave the plates in the sink after eating, how about you start doing that as well? Once they see everyone else doing it, they will be more encouraged to follow suit as well. If they have some adult siblings, you can even have them help you out. For kids aged between 0 to 4 years, their elder sisters and brothers are their role models, and they want to imitate them in everything they do. Have them help you out, so that good manners are a part of the lifestyle and not a one-time thing for the kids.
3. Be positive and encouraging
There will be times when things won’t go as you had planned. Being kids, they might not be willing to comply or are being stubborn and throwing tantrums, in either case, be patient and encouraging. To have them accept the change you are trying to bring in their lives, they need to see its good light. Reward them and praise them for every time they make an effort to do something good so that they know it is the right way to go about. The rewards could come in the form of extra playtime or another scoop of their favorite ice-cream: anything that they would be psyched to have and appreciate.`
4. Make playtime fun
Another thing that you can do is to turn it all into a game. For example, if you want them to put away their toys when they are done playing, turn it into a fun song that you all would sing along and have them dance their way to it. This way, they will not even feel it as a chore and would happily agree to do it. This way you can set up queues for the next time so that the moment you start singing, they know what they have to do. It will only take a few turns of this ritual before cleaning up after playing would come off naturally to them, and you might not even have to turn it into a song and play session anymore. The same would go for all the other good habits you are trying to build in them.
5. Talk to them
If you think that you will have the kids do whatever you tell them to do with a because-i-told-you-so attitude, then you are wrong. Parents often forget that kids respond to positivity. Their brains might not be as developed as yet, but they are very observant and quick to understand things. Whenever you feel that the kids are not understanding the logic behind your directives and logics, sit and talk to them. As adults, it is your duty and responsibility to make them see the reason and understand the good in what you are trying to tell them. It is only then that their brain would wind around it.
6. Stay involved
If you were to be given a blank canvas, wouldn’t you want to fill it up with all the beautiful colors and things around you? The same should be the case with the kids. They are tiny human beings who are just learning the ways of life. Teach them, help them, and guide them the right way. The more you are involved in the things they are doing, the better chance you would have of identifying the things that would be the basis of bad habits in the future and cutting them to the quick.
Good habits are of no use if they are not a part of the personality. Kids being young can be trained and taught to adopt the right means of life so that they are a pleasure to be around when they grow up and a blessing to the society in general. Good habits lead to better things in life. As a parent, it would be your biggest gift to them, passing on a part of your legacy to them in the form of manners and habits. Follow our website for more parenting tips and guidance so that you can get all the help you need in raising the most responsible of human beings.
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